What's the difference between 'jealous' and 'envious'?

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**The technical distinction:**

**Jealous = fear of losing something you already have** (usually to a rival)
- "He's jealous of the attention she gives to other friends." (afraid of losing her attention)
- Jealousy often involves three parties: you, what you have, and a rival.

**Envious = wanting something someone else has**
- "I'm envious of her apartment." (I want it, I don't have it)
- Envy involves two parties: you and someone who has what you want.

**In everyday use:** Most people use "jealous" for both. "I'm so jealous of your holiday" — technically this is envy (you want their holiday), not jealousy (no fear of losing anything). But this usage is so common that correcting it sounds pedantic.

**"I'm so jealous":** In casual speech, this almost always means envy. Native speakers use it constantly and aren't confused by it.

**Register:** The distinction matters in precise or formal writing. In speech, "jealous" covers both.

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